Trust and Control

This happens in churches, local, state and national governments, and corporations as well. It’s the human tendency to control rather than lead or even manage. (My view of management is something done with things, not people, so I use that term loosely here.)

Too often, there is a gradual creep of good intentions to the desire to control people to get them to adhere to certain behavior. Those who do the controlling are convinced they know best for those being controlled, and the “controllees” are not likely to do the right thing on their own.

This causes problems for all parties involved because most people resist being controlled and those who attempt to control them become more and more frustrated with the lack of compliance they see.

This leads to a massive lack of trust and even strong mistrust on all parties. The answer to this problem is to continue to lead, allowing for the fact that some will not follow, and never shift into the controlling mode at all. Such restraint requires a certain maturity on the part of the leader, and one which we should all seek when leaders are selected.

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